First Ever Interview with Steve Hardison

TUCP Intro/Outro: 00:00:08

Welcome to The Ultimate Coach Podcast conversations from being inspired by the book The Ultimate coach, written by Amy Hardison, and Alan Thompson. Join us each week with the intention of expanding your state of being and your experience will be remarkable. Remember, this is a podcast about be it is a podcast about you. To explore more deeply visit theultimateCoachbook.com. Now, enjoy today's conversation from bing

BNS: 00:00:48

Hey guys, today we have a very, very, very, very special guest with us. That is you. Yes, you have heard it right. It's you the listener, whatever you're gonna witness listen and see in this interview is all about you. Everything is about you. Steve Hardison by being His majestic self, we'll help you discover your majestic yourself. If I start writing the greatness about Steve Hardison, the video length would not be sufficient. So without any further delay, let us welcome Steve Hardison and you to the show. Thanks to you for coming to the show.

Steve Hardison: 00:01:26

Oh, BNS. I love your energy and your enthusiasm and your focus. And I'm so happy to be with people from India. I am so excited to be with you tonight.

BNS: 00:01:36

Thank you so much, Steve. It's a blessing to be talking with you. And I know that we will be helping as many people as possible today. So, Steve, before we go into the questions, can you talk about the Mumbai event that will happen on 25th February this year, it's a blessing to see you in person and discover our being what one needs to do before attending the events to

Steve Hardison: 00:02:01

yes, this event is literally and I love the way you opened it up BNS, this event is about your listener, the person in the seat, there will be people that come to speak, there will be people helping, but the who the celebrity is in this event is the person that's sitting there, the one you talked about, this is the program for you. So what we're wanting people to do is to understand, the reason we're putting this on is you there is no one here, wherever they're flying from however they're helping run John Kumar, all the people that are helping him, no one here is being paid anything, all of what we're doing is we're donating it. So it's going to be a place of being for people serving each other. And the recipient of the blessing is the person sitting in the chair. The speakers that are coming over are good, but it's not about them. It's about their ability to have someone to sit in the chair, see how they can grow from their own being. So that one one speaker speaking and the other six are listening, their participants. This isn't coming to get information from somebody off of a hill. This is us creating in a room, the state of being. That's the intention of it

BNS: 00:03:14

is Steve and all the 100% of the profits are going to daughter Sofia, right. So can you stop it like that?

Steve Hardison: 00:03:22

That's correct. I am paying my own way over the other speakers are paying their own way over. I have purchased a ticket for my wife $500. I purchased a ticket for me for $500.

BNS: 00:03:35

Well, I have purchased Oh wait.

Steve Hardison: 00:03:39

The only person that's profiting off of this is the Indian population by assisting these young women out of teenage prostitution and sex trafficking. That's who we're being. We're being generous in the contribution to India and the people that are in India. We want people to be in that room that want to understand who they're being. When you need to know I have a passion about India. My own personal experience from people I've met clients that I have Uncas Jane in London is a client rugoff parcast cash. These are great Indian men. And I know that coming to India is a sacred place, the country, the traditions, I am so excited to have people come and be there. Because it will be something that goes throughout the world because of the Indian people and the way in which they love surf and their spirituality. I'm excited to be there

BNS: 00:04:37

is to have Yes, so excited to meet you and to see ourselves on the stage. So thanks to Steve, my first question is the dominant feeling of your childhood is that you felt alone. How did you not let that emotion dictate the course of your life later on?

Steve Hardison: 00:05:00

Yes, as a young person, and I would ask your audience as they listen to hear the story of their own life, in my what I'm sharing. As a young person, I was really confused. My, my father left our home, and my mom raise five kids alone. So I had lots of questions as a young man. And I would really contemplate them. I became very thoughtful at a young age. What am I thinking, doing thinking? What's happening here? Who am I? What's my value? And funny enough, I just kept looking at answering those questions. And I've been answering those questions my whole life. So I would sit out in a little shed, where I'd see the sun come in. And I would just think about living and about my life. And from that, lots of ideas came to me, including how to thrive and survive inside of a very difficult situation. And I wouldn't change any of it. All the things that happened in my life have made me who I am, I'm grateful for my past, I never wallow in it. I never tried to get sympathy from my past, I only use my past to lead guide and inspire people. That's it. So I had a beautiful, beautiful family of what I got to learn from my family, and all the challenges that any family has.

BNS: 00:06:16

Thank you, Steve, Steve, how do I access who I am being?

Steve Hardison: 00:06:23

That is such a good question. And it's so deep. So I'm going to say it like this, it would be like you telling me to show you a diamond. And I pick up the diamond and you see one facet of it. And there are a bunch of facets of the diamond, there's not just one, there's a bunch. And so that answer that question is deep, but it's also simple. beingness as a possibility, is something that we're creating, when we sync and we speak. If who I'm been in my mind, or what I think is I'm not successful, I can't do that they don't like me. Over time, those ideas that I have, will be become part of me. So who I will become as I am that they don't like me, I am that I can't succeed. I am that I'm not liked. Well, as I do that long enough, I become that. So the first place is to be aware that there is a been over there in you and in me and every one of your listeners, and that we actually have something to say about how that being bees, how that being bees, we get to choose it. And the purpose of everything we're doing, the book you may speak about, or the event we're going to is about having someone get access to understand their own being and how to create it or modify it. So it serves them. No one has not been at any time. At right now any listener that's listening to me and you, some of them are listening from their being skeptical. So they'll hear skeptical information, somebody else's being thankful, they'll be glad of what I'm saying, someone else will be inspired, there'll be inspired, they're choosing who they're being. So if my life isn't working, because I think wow, this is never going to work for me, I might want to start thinking a different thought. So it shifts my being, then at that point as a possibility. The been the who you're being the whose anybody's been, every doing every deed that has ever been done that will ever be done, that has ever been done, or that will ever be done is growing out of who you're being. So if I'm being loving and loving you I'm being loving my doing will be loving doing if I'm being hateful or resentful. My doing will be hateful and resentful. Being as a possibility is the seed of all doing. If I plant an apricot, I get an apricot tree. I don't plant an apricot and get a watermelon. We can see that in nature of fruit. Where if I get to Pomeranian pups, I don't get a Doxon I don't get a German Shepherd. The seed becomes the fruit as a possibility. Understanding the seed of my bean alters everything I do. I can quit trying to manage all my doing and simply understand who I'm being and make the adjustments here instead of trying to deal with everything out there. That's a short idea of being.

BNS: 00:09:29

Thank you, Steve, if you could only pass on one life lesson to your most loved ones. What would that be?

Steve Hardison: 00:09:36

That the capacity to love is endless. And that all people are worthy of love and they're not worthy of judgment as a choice. Even when we think it's righteous to judge them or condemn them, that love is really the key to living. In fact, I think when we talked about this being the ultimate that state of being is love. And we can practice it. And I would have my children and my grandchildren know that love isn't just a concept. It's a verb, and it's an experience. When someone is loving someone else coming from love, they'll do loving things. That would be what I would share with them the importance and value of love.

BNS: 00:10:24

Absolutely, Steve. Yes. Thank you, Steve, I just want to ask the backstory of this book, how did it happen? You mentioned that you never wanted to write a book about you. And I know that this is this book is not about you, when we really read it. So can you talk about it?

Steve Hardison: 00:10:42

Yes, I'll try to keep this as short as possible. I could spend two hours to tell the background on it. I'll keep it short as possible. I live in the United States in a place called Mesa, Arizona. And what I do for living as I work with people, some people call me a coach, I would prefer to call me a mind surgeon or a soul orthodontists because I work with ideas and states of being. So I work in an office where when a client comes in, I'm not spray painting them with information. All the work I'm going to do exists in them, I listened to them. And I work with the states of being that are there. So back in 2013, a magnificent man by the name of Alan Thompson. He's the man who did the research, you hold the book up, that's his name. He came over to do what was called to be with session with me. So he's just coming to see who I am explore this. What's What's this animal? Like? Who is this guy? And while we're sitting in my office, he tells me what he does. And he is he coaches savant children, prodigies, and gifted children. And in that conversation he was experiencing muy bien was him not my doing. And he said, Oh, my gosh, we're going to put this in a book. We're going to write about this. And I said, Alan, this will never be in a book. This is my book. I am my book. I'm going to live my book, I'm not going to broadcast that teach it do tapes. And people can do that. There's no need for that. But I'm not going to. So he said, Can I write about my experience here? And he did. And I said, Yes. And for the next eight years, he kept wanting to convince me that we should write a book about being and I said, Alan, you cannot write a book about being because the minute you're doing it, you've lost being being as a state. It's not a definition. It's not an understanding of laws, rules, words. It's a spiritual nature of who we're being. And I don't believe that can be done. If I did write a book, Alan, the only book I would write would be a book about being, and I believe the minute you start doing that, you've lost what it is. For eight years, he kept asking me to do that. I'd seen him one time, April 19 2020, he sends me an email saying that God nudged him to write a biography on my life. I told him to give me a call, and I'll talk him down off the ledge, that that isn't going to be happening. I don't need a biographer to write about me. I don't need anybody to know I exist except for my God, my wife and the person in front of me. And I declined and declined, inclined. And then he called and we talked. And he said, You're not hiring a biographer. I'm gonna do this as a gift to you. I think we should allow people to see what being can be. He said, 622 pages of research. My wife looked at it said it needs a narrative. She spent two, almost two years writing the narrative. The book was quote, done, except it wasn't for me, because it still wasn't about who's reading the book. They just have a bunch of stories. So I made that a matter of meditation, and prayer. And I was awakened and brought, I'm in an office right now brought out of my bed and told what to write and told this goes on the back cover. So now with the three people, my wife, Alan Thompson, and Chris Nelson, the editor is like you, you can't put something like that on the back of a book. I said, Oh, yes, we can. Because that information is what makes this book so valuable. So somebody can learn about there being not about me about there being I go to bed the next night. Still in meditation and prayer, I'm awakened into this exact office over there, my desk instead of my wives. And the front two pages that are in the book come through me, I write them down. I now go back to these three who thought I was crazy to put this thing on the back cover. And now I'm saying I want two pages in the front. And my wife who's the writer said, you have a foreword, you have an introduction. You can't stick two pages up in front of that. And he said if we don't put the pages there, so people read this about them, this book will not go out. I do not need a book. I need some of an experience about there being so that's exactly How it came short version. And people that will pick up that book and read the back cover and the front two pages and read that book about themselves, they will not be the same when they're three reading that book, not my opinion, my experience with 1000s of people from every different walk of life. So, did I answer your question about that those questions are powerful. And they're powerful to the reader. Steve, actually, I'm

BNS: 00:15:26

displaying the back cover and the front two pages in front of everyone, so that you can see it. And yes, absolutely. Steven, I would like to share what I learned from the book. 60, as you said, to be like, 100% honest, if a person is reading this as a biography, they will think it as a cool story. Yes, well, it's almost like a novel for to them because they're really bad when they're really really the way it is supposed to be. For example, reading from from the back and starting two pages, the things will completely become completely different. The reason I'm so thankful to Emily Penton here, because she's the one who asked me to read this book, many, many times. And I read it the way it's supposed to be read. And I know this tape. We read from that being, every page will show you something, every year, he show you something from your life that you can improve. And I did so many miraculous things after were read this book as a proof, as a testimony through this, and I sent you so many times that it's easy to be that. But we do not see that ourselves. Like we forgot to see ourselves like that, once you read from that angle, and you read every page, and you will see the opportunities that's there. So everything will become an opportunity from that. And then we can literally grab those opportunities. And, guys, I'm saying this, you know that I do not say this often. But please read this book, as it is supposed to be, please read it as it is instructed, because you will be you will be unlocking a new whole level of being once you read this. And thank you, Steve, for this book. Really, I'm really grateful.

Steve Hardison: 00:17:27

Could I say something here, please BNS. And I want, I want to acknowledge you for your passion, and getting clear understanding of how to read it, it's why you receive the results. If someone's just gonna get that book and go through it and judge what's in it, they'll miss the book, if they will read it based on the questions. Any person in India, in Vietnam, in the Philippines in Peru, they will have an experience of their own being the purpose of the book is to introduce someone to their own being. Or give you an example, I have a client named Clayton mask, he is going to be someone that will be speaking virtually from the United States. He's the CEO of a company called Kete. He's in the book, I coached him sitting across from me for 12 years. He understands things I said Your assignment is to go back and read the book again, except read it about you. He goes, he's like what I already read it, no, go read it about you. He comes back. He's emotional. He tells me the different things that he's had because of the experiences reading that way. And I said, What do you want to do about this? He said, I'm not going to make my employees read it. I'm going to encourage them to read it. And any employee who wants to read it, I'm going to sit down with them one at a time, and tell them how to read it about themselves. Because I know if they have the breakthrough in their being I do that with so many employees, everything gets great plate, but out of his own pocket 380 coffees that day for people to read about them, reading the back cover and the front two pages. I promise your listeners get this book. I don't need to sell a book. I don't need money for a book. I don't need fame. My intention of life is to help people say that the access and power is within them out of who they're choosing to be. And they have choice about that.

BNS: 00:19:36

Steve and just one thing to add in this from my side is that if you read the book, the way it is supposed to be read it will become a mirror that can show you itself so that you can be more and one more thing is that the fat it will turn this biography into an auto biography of ourselves.

Steve Hardison: 00:19:57

Oh, say that again. That's brilliant. BNS you're brilliant Say that again.

BNS: 00:20:02

I will still, this thought popped in my mind suddenly. And I think this is true. This if you read without context, and without the instructions, it will be a biography. But if you read it the way it's supposed to be, it will become your autobiography. And you can always change your body auto biography. Anytime.

Steve Hardison: 00:20:21

Wow. Wow. Brilliant.

BNS: 00:20:25

Thank you, Steve. Steve, I have a question for you, Steve, you know that strangers are capable of doing extraordinary things? How did you discover this? Many people don't believe that and say that? Why would strangers do anything for anyone?

Steve Hardison: 00:20:42

Oh, so here's your question. People are afraid of strangers, they don't think strangers can do something. Why would you approach a stranger? Yes. So I'm going to go back to being to answer your question. See, if I approach a stranger. Again, I'm trying to keep this under the most simplistic level, and people could debate in their head about it. Don't do that. Try to find how this might work. All the listeners there, and there'll be something great to see. This isn't the answer is not perfect. But this would get someone to see why I would approach a stranger or help. I'm not saying don't be cautious. Don't be careful. Do that. But watch it inside myself, who I'm being as I can't trust anyone, it will be very difficult to approach a stranger. And most of us have voices in us that really, really keep us from being ourselves. I've created and worked with my beans such that I speak I am loving kindness love is I am that. So I don't have any strangers. It changes everything. My trip from the United States to India will be extraordinary. And I will meet all sorts of people I've never met before. Because of the love I have for myself and other people. I frequently say, and I'm not talking about this from a religious point of view, I honor any religion that someone is, if someone doesn't want a religion great there, too. But I say that the ultimate spirituality is self love. And if I'm loving myself, I'm able to do things, even with things that are tough, or somebody that's a little offbeat or you know, could be bad. I come from it in a different place. But I'm not unique. I simply decide to be that. And I have zillion examples of that where something are really, really great. And then somebody has an experience where they have a bad thing. So they never serve anyone again, I'm not going to have one experience shaped my whole life of being able to be loving. There still, so I don't have strangers, that when I go when I'm in India, there will be people I've never met before that in a few minutes, I will love them. And they will love me, they will see that. And by the way, that's not something special. This is available by anybody working with there been any client I've ever had, who they are when we're through is more loving, more gracious, more powerful, more committed, more able, because I work on the state of being not the state of doing the book is all about being the event will be about being the speakers that come over, I will have a conversation with them on Friday. If there's any speakers coming over, there'll be a hot shot or to be popular, or to win approval. I don't want them. I want every speaker that's there to speak to the person in the chair about how they can move their state of being. So that every person in the room, I've promised people that know I'm going to India, that before I get there at least once a day, my state of being will be altered and improved out of who I'm being by serving other people. So conversations with Ron John conversations with cush conversations with Rebecca Kumar. Every one of those, how I'm being shaped since I won't be the same person I am tonight, when I get to India, when somebody understands that they have some ability to shape their future. And that's what everyone's doing. They are doing who they're being. So manage the bean

BNS: 00:24:27

stew. Thank you. Still what is the power of asking?

Steve Hardison: 00:24:33

Oh my goodness. Well, for for people that may have again people have different let me say something before I answer that remind me the question in case I forget and I want to say something in the book. And I invite everyone that they they actually get a book and read about them no matter what they do and anything else. Whether they ever know I exist or this abandoned get the book and read it about them in the book, I was competing in a national extemporaneous speaking competition in the United States. It went through five rounds. The final round. The question was, if you could do any one thing to alter the world, what would you do? And when they gave it to us, and there's five finalists, I laughed, and I was laughing, because I was this is so over i So got this. Because I've been thinking of that my whole life. And that shadow was talking about when I was asking myself questions. And I said, this is paraphrasing it. And this is so I can answer your question. So when I, when I say something about Christ, or I say something about Allah, or I say something about Vishnu, and Krishna, I'm just being a wisdom. I'm not I don't have a dog in the fight. So the answer to my question of the thing that had me when for the United States, all the colleges and universities, is they said something like this, if there's and most people won't like this, because it's offensive to their particular belief system. But what I would do is I would change all the holy scriptures at night, like when Santa Claus goes and gives packages, except I'm going in with my little helpers. And we're going to change all the scriptures, the Book of Mormon, the Old Testament, the Koran. Now, people that worship the crowd, don't touch that thing. I'm trying to so so just give me some space, I would change it so that every parent is teaching their children. The more we learn, the more we love, not the more we learn, we got it, they don't have it, we got to blow them up. At the end, there's got to be an Armageddon, I'd change it because we're teaching each other to hate. It would have it be that everyone's equal. And I would do that, and I do that worldwide. So when we woke up the next morning, man, I'm teaching, isn't it great. I love that person, that person is great. Here's who we are, the more we learn, the more we get united not we divided. So having said that, now ask me your question.

BNS: 00:26:56

What is the power of asking?

Steve Hardison: 00:26:59

Yes, okay. The reason I gave you the background is because now I'm going to quote Christian scripture, not not quoting the others. In the Bible, in the New Testament, the most often printed scripture is Ask and you shall receive. So asking is really, really interesting. If I can increase, the things I would ask for are the number of times I would ask for something, the possibility of it happening would be there. If I don't ask someone something, the answer is always no. You get that? Yes. I don't ask the answer's no. I asked. I may get a No, I may not get a no. And if I ask and it's a no, I may go ask someone else and get a different thing than a no. I think asking is a very powerful way of creating. And I asked for a lot from people. I asked him, like I did with you. The first time we spoke, I asked you to go read the book, I gave you assignments on how to read it what to do. I gave you a video to go watch. I asked I asked I asked. And that asking can draw and grow something really great. Especially if what the asking for is contribution. I believe that asking is tied in with giving. And people go, how could that be tied in with giving? Because everything I'm asking is really an opportunity for me to give of myself to another person. Always. So asking for me isn't taking, it's giving. So if somebody thinks ASCII is taking, and they don't want to do that, they're never going to do that. That's the short version. But I quote Christ, and that's why he talks about the different religions. I can quote, some other religious leaders if you'd like not about quoting them, because I I honestly do not care. What someone's religious belief is. I simply care that they live what they say their religious belief is

BNS: 00:28:59

yesterday. Thank you still, still many married people are quickly moving towards diverse if they're having some issues in the relationship. Can people have a beautiful loving relationship? If they're having issues with their partners,

Steve Hardison: 00:29:14

having issue with the wet partners partner? Oh, yeah, sure. They're ready for this. There isn't a couple on the planet that aren't having issues with their partners. They don't exist. You put a man and a woman together, you're gonna have issues. That's part of the growth of being in a relationship isn't the issue is how I handle the issue. The issue is never the issue. How I handle the issue is the issue. So my wife's upset at me. It looks like that's the issue. No, she's upset at me. The issue is how am I going to handle that? Because she's upset at me and the issue is how I'm gonna handle that and I say Oh sweetheart, tell me how you feel. And she says, I think you're nuts. And that's not the issue. She called me a nut is how do I handle this, she called me a nut. Now you get to people operating from that you can resolve anything. And every relationship has its challenges. Every relationship, no exceptions. Now, people can act like there's no challenges, that's great. Not much to learn. Yes, couples can have serious disagreements and challenges, and was time out of choosing who they're going to be, can heal that and stay together if they want to. And I'm not saying divorce stay together, I'm saying who someone has been. They can choose that. I have clients that I've begun working with husbands or wives or both. And they learn how to love another person, by what they're thinking in their mind about that person. Literally, no two people will ever meet. I when I mean that, I don't mean to say hello and shake hands. But when I look at you, and you look at me, all I am is the ideas you have about me. That's all I am. I am to you the ideas you have about me. And you are to me the ideas I have about you now put that in a husband and wife, I had one here today. And I said stop looking over there, her being what you consider too heavy. Start looking over there and see this woman has born five children. For me, this woman is amazing. Find what you love, look for it, and watch how beautiful that body becomes. And I mean that literally. So is I don't have an like, I don't have little answers that are simple little quick things. They are processes. How do I be kind and loving to another person that's not being kind and loving to me? And most people aren't saying Who would I need to be when there's a problem. They become defensive, they become self righteous, they become angry. And that's what you that they become that? Yes, somebody isn't all of a sudden angry. They think a thought and choose to be angry at someone and then blame it on the other person.

BNS: 00:32:32

As to thank you so still Still, why relationships are a daily creation.

Steve Hardison: 00:32:39

Because we Oh man, this is so much fun. So let's just pretend for all your listeners, that there's some validity in what I'm about what I'm saying and what I've been saying and listen to me to try to find the validity in it, rather than debate me and find what's wrong about it. Because see, they can do that. That's what they're bringing to me. It'll make it easier for them to learn me to speak. The same is true. Day to day. When someone wakes up in the morning. They wake up to a new day. My wife today literally this day, when I'm out in the office with a client named Jim. Come on, backer. When you get to be my age, sometimes you can't pull the names out. I love him. I said, Jim, we're gonna walk in my house right now. I have no idea what Amy is doing. I don't know the condition of anything. I said, so come in, because I wanted him to see what you're asking. We come down, I say, Amy, I've got Jim with me. Can we come in, she just been through weight or mean exercise and she's all sweaty sitting in the chair working on the computer. And he's standing there. She doesn't know this is gonna happen. He doesn't know this is gonna happen. And I leaned over to my wife and I say, Amy, I want you to know that what you said to me yesterday, about what can go on in India inspired me so much that I've had conversations I wouldn't have had with other people that have created great results. I want to thank you for who you are in my life. I want to thank you for all the things you do. And then I said I want you to know Amy to me, she's just a little bitty lady. You know, she's the strongest physical thing I've ever seen. She works out like crazy. And I acknowledged what there is every day sometimes I'll say to a client, when last you tell your wife, your lover. Oh, yeah, I did that last week. Oh my goodness, oh, my goodness. I will try to find 30 creative ways in a day to make sure my wife knows that I love her. So I'm creating her. I'm creating her in my mind. In my mind, I say this. And these things are in the book for someone to learn for themselves. Because if my mind if I'm thinking I don't like this woman, she bugs me. That's who I have. And I don't do that. Here's what I do in a short one right here. Amy loves me so much, that whenever she's the way, she cannot wait to get home to be with me. Amy loves being with me. I'm 100% secure, and Amy's love for me. Amy's love grows for me every day. Amy loves being with me, she thinks I'm amazing. She loves who I'm being. I am 100% secure in her. And I am holding complete and my love for her. Now, I'm thinking and saying that now Amy shows up. That's what I get to see, because that's what's in my head. And that's all we're doing anyway, and somebody could debate it. But the guy drives in the garage. Oh, man, I gotta be with that again today. How am I gonna make that now have that show up as anything other than that? Yes, it's a daily creation. And I create what I want to see. And in loving my wife, I do that with the postal carrier my clients with you. I'm looking for the greatness in people. My choice of who I'm going to be is to look for the greatness and bring love forward, no matter what's out there. No matter if it wants to be unkind to me. As a choice I create every day, I create myself, I create my wife, I create my clients is to literally we are creating the world we're seeing the store, the one that's the producer of what we say we see, it doesn't matter what we look at. It is what we see when we look at it. It's just ideas.

BNS: 00:36:43

Nasty. Why is that so practical at the same time, and it's so self evident. So that's what I'm going to say thank you, Steve, how to learn to be when life is becoming challenging.

Steve Hardison: 00:36:59

Well, notice what you said. You said life is becoming challenging. Who's looking at it that life? And what are they calling life they're calling life is becoming challenging. Guess who created that. So I can have the same challenge out there and not have that idea. And I can say this life is so exciting. And I get a chance to really grow here. This is going to be more fun than playing a game of chess with Bobby, whoever. And I'm not kidding. It's not a semantics. It's like, what am I? What am I going to see in that? What am I going to see when I look? Imagine pretend I could do this. Pretend somehow I could tap your head. And the idea you had in your mind was I really like humanity. I'm here to serve. And I can really, really deal with challenges of any sort. And that's what you saw. And that's what you felt. That's what you do. I can remember in 2009 clay mask that will be speaking to us. He came now this would blow some people away. And by the way, I'm just one man was the opinion, I don't have the truth. I'm not right about it. I'm just sharing what I know is accessible. If you go to the source of being, see I'm not if I got in a room and took an IQ test. I may be at the bottom 20%. If somebody said I want you to add fractions right now I'd say I'd have to visit I don't remember it. But what I do know is I know I can create my being who I'm being as a choice. Do you hear that? It's your choice who you're being. So we've played I would ask him I'd say, imagine who you could be. He literally this is a real story. He went into a board meeting, thinking he may be fired. So who's he been inside of himself? He's been I may be fired. So I say to clay, wait, when's your board mean? He says Thursday, I said we need to do something before Thursday. Because you take that in there. That's how you're gonna see everything they say. So we work on it. He takes different ideas into the board meeting, he gets a raise things happen. We don't think we're changing the world by what we see. That's the only way we get it. We have so much power. Every single person if somebody has a skin bag, they got skin on him. And they gotta been in here, which they do and unless it stops breathing, that they don't have a beam that things that's that's moved into whatever it moves into. But as long as they have that they can actually decide who to be in a situation before the situation happens. Literally, I can tell you story after story of me or any of my clients to decide. This is going to be a great trip on this. Here you go. I'll give you one myself. I'm excited to go to India. By the way, thank you all of BNS, as listeners for trying to hear that I'm wanting to contribute. I am not at, I'm just trying to share. When I go to India, I have worked on my been who I'm going to be in the book, it calls it a document. I've worked on my beans. So here's what I know. When I go to India, if our plane is hijacked, I still know who I'm going to be, I'm not going to change who I'm being because someone's stealing the plane and going to run it into something. That's what they're going to do, I am going to be who I am. And being that place, I'll be more level headed, what to do, including if I'm going to die. If I go to the hotel to Sahara star, and my room isn't any good. That's not going to change who I'm being, I'm going to be who I am. And my room wasn't very good. If I speak, and at the end of me speaking, people throw tomatoes at me, I'd prefer they didn't. But if they did, it wouldn't change who I'm being. And if at the end of me speaking, they stand up and applaud, thank you, but it doesn't change who I'm being. I'm decided who I'm going to be before something happens. And I'm going to be loving kindness, I am going to be things that I say to myself, I am generating that. And there is not a person on the earth that isn't doing exactly what I'm doing. They're just unconscious of what they're doing. And the results aren't good. So they think it's about the world. That is whatever the word is, it's not a swear word in India, that's like what comes out of the cows. But

BNS: 00:41:45

that that really answered the question more than what I asked for. Thank you. Yes, Steve, how to create a positive flow of money into our life.

Steve Hardison: 00:41:56

Wow. See, money is as inanimate as a brick. It doesn't think it doesn't move. It's something we exchange. So what if money is no different than creating a relationship? Or what if money is no different than deciding how I'm going to be about something. So if I have ideas in my being that money's hard to come by, who am I being if I have the ideas, money's hard to come by, I'm being money's hard to come by. Okay, now, let's go back to what I said about being as a seed, and doing as the fruit. If I'm planting the seed money is hard to come by. And that's an actual tree, called money is hard to come by. When I get the tree to grow, what trees gonna grow. Money, money is hard to come by tree. And we think it's something else. My relationship to money is what generates or moves it away from me. My children, when they're young, they asked me, I say, Money is the easiest thing to come by, simply by having a good idea or a service. So they're not taught, there isn't any of it, you can't get it. It's hard to make. It's hard to get. I'm going to drag my knuckles. If somebody wants to alter the relationship with money, they must alter the relationship of being with the idea of money. And I'm not a theorist. I do that I work with that. I work with people on that. But there's nothing different money is not different than sex, meaning my relationship to something gives me the thing. Does that make sense? Yes, yes, yes. And most people are all goofy about money. Like they think that's it in life. It's just a thing. And when somebody gets it as a thing, they don't have to worship at or beg for it or get it. It's like, easy to come by, because it flows. Stew. Now some people say hold on a second, you're gonna see something over here where there's people with no money, give me the people with no money. Let me work with them to shift their ideas of how they see themselves. They will have money, they will have houses, they will have cars, they will have shoes. When I go to places, there's a place called Durango, it's the next step to prison. And there's a lot of people in there that are gonna go to the next worst thing because of what they've done. And I'm listening to people talk in there, they're talking about, I'll give them more punishment. We'll do this and we'll do that. And they'll say, you can't punish a way of being out of someone. It will just make him more angry. If I can take that person who in his mind thinks I got to stick it to the man. Everything's against me. This is no good. I can't make it. And I have some time was working was his thinking. He won't be in jail anymore. Not because I punished him. He shifted what he sees us valuable. This is our life. No one's exempt from this. No one There's no one right now that is not doing what they do based on who they're being, including my answer to every question. And who I'm being right now is I'm being someone to give my soul to the Indian people so that they can see. And man, there's a ton I can learn from them. So it's not like I'm coming to teach them some. But so they can see that the deepest spiritual level is being what makes us united as a race, is that we're, it isn't Indians, Americans, Soviets, that it's, we have one race. It's the human race, and it's a human being. What makes us common is that each of us are a being. And we are creating who we're being in the moment. And if we decided, as a group of beings to create great things outside of ourselves in inside of ourselves, in a very short order, we would have order, prosperity, dignity. It's not accidental, we have what we have, we haven't because of the way we think we are. That's it

BNS: 00:46:03

is 200%, more than 100%? I understand this. thank Steve, what is the importance of doing what we say? We will do?

Steve Hardison: 00:46:15

Again, every one of these questions I could spend hours to discuss. So it's not just a little chopped up thing. But as a first possibility. When someone can trust what you say, they can count on you. And things work. If I say let's have a meeting at 10 o'clock, and the six of us supposed to be there, and only three show up, we get it doesn't work, we got three people missing. So how I am about doing what I say is I practice it. Because I know that doing what I say is a state of being being my word. There are people that are being their word. So if they're being their word, they keep their word. And then there are people who are being their excuses. So if you plant a being excuses tree, what do you get? being excused of seeing excuses tree a bunch of them. It's not rocket science. So if I keep my word I can create powerfully, when I keep my word over and over again, I can get to a point that I can predict the future based on my word. I will have clients that will call me and say, Hey, I need your help on this. Will you do this? And they don't even actually what this is. They say, Well, you and I say yes. And they say How can you say yes, you don't even know what I'm going to ask you. Because I know I have the ability to get done whatever I say not necessarily myself. But if I say it's going to happen, it happens, not out of force, or will or I'm cool. Inside practice being my word. Again, I go back to deity on this. In the Christian scripture, and in other scriptures of the creation, it says, God said, Let there be light. And there was light, light, integrity of God, getting to where what I say matters. And when I say for myself with practice, I'm not perfect. I don't want to be perfect. But I practice saying what I say, so that someone can count on me, my children say, Dad, the greatest thing we love about you is we know we can count on what you say. And if I can begin to count on myself, and most people can even trust and honor what they say to themselves, well, I'm going to lose this weight, and then they don't, oh, I'm gonna stop doing that. They don't even trust themselves. So one of the advantages, you start to trust you. And if I'm trusting here, I become trust. I cannot produce something greater than myself outside of myself, because I'm the one that has to see this thing that I'm producing.

BNS: 00:48:57

Give this to

Steve Hardison: 00:49:01

Steve, I love you.

BNS: 00:49:04

I love you, too. Steve. Steve, what are some things we should keep in mind? While we are giving an advice to others?

Steve Hardison: 00:49:14

Well, again, wow, that's I wish we had six hours for that I that question. First of all, for me, I don't give advice. I work with people through a committed space of how interested are they to actually hear what I have to say. And if they don't have any interest in what I have to say I don't say it. I call that if you do that, I call it spitting into the wind. Boom, it's sitting back in the face. So first is to see, you know, who do I have the right to give advice? Are they even asking me for it? Then if someone asked me for something, I'm going to create something just like I did with you. You said to me, Hey, how could I do an interview with you? That's a simple question. Right? Yes, I don't give you advice, I freaking commit you to do stuff. So your life improves. So if I'm gonna, I don't give advice, I work with somebody who wants to hear something, and I commit them to do it. And in most cases, I commit them to do this thing I'm gonna say before they know what the thing is. And they trust that I'm doing that for them. So just like what I'm going to do right now, watch this. Your listeners are seeing the however they want, is this is a broad spectrum. Some people have turned this off already. So that guy's nuts. Other people are going, oh, man, I want to hear more of what he has to say. And inside of that I'm creating. I'm saying that when when someone becomes their word, and they honor themselves as their word, then what they can say is create something and someone can experience and fill it and know what's gonna happen. And I'll give you an example. I'm not giving you in my advice, right now, I am telling you what would be really great for your listeners, here's what would be great. Listen to what he has to say about the event in Mumbai, go figure out how to get a ticket to Mumbai, I'm not trying to sell tickets to Mumbai, get a ticket, go cross out February 25. Or go look at February 25. And get ready to move whatever's there that you can and be there. Because what will occur is if you commit to be in that room, you will imprint principles about being just like you have in the short period, you've done it, that will alter your life. And there will be people from all over the world. And the most important people to me are the people of India that are right there in Mumbai. If I had a week to go ahead, I'd go door to door and bring people to that. Can you hear me? Yes. So I'm not giving advice. When I suggest read this book. That's not advice. It's like this, get that book and alter your state of being, you will thank me when you do. And it will be profound to you, your wife, your children, your employees, if I can come over to Mumbai, and thank you, Rebecca, for sending me this book. I read everything about it. I even went and bought me a watch from the company. I would go over and I would say to somebody in those companies, how would you like to improve your productivity? And they're saying, Who's this guy from America? What's he doing? What's he know? I said, Give me your top five executives, give me a day, I need them to read a book read about themselves and be in this event at February 25. And I promise you, the productivity of your company will go up. Because as people get a new sense of being they move, and the doing becomes automatic. So if someone got in there and got generated, who I'm gonna be as a true contribution to my life, they're gonna do stuff they wouldn't do otherwise. If somebody comes in and got to the state of being, I'm gonna be a team player. And you got five people on the same team doing that explodes. Thanks for listening. So no advice. I don't have advice. I don't give advice. I listen, I help and I commit people to grow them. I don't want anything from them when I'm doing it, except to give them growth in their being. And I mean that, Steve,

BNS: 00:53:24

I experienced this. So I know this is a steal, steal. How did Don booting influenced you?

Steve Hardison: 00:53:33

How did he influence me? Yes. I don't have enough good to say about him. When I met Don. One day, he said to me, I put my elbows back like this sitting in a chair and my shirt was ripped. And he said, your shirts ripped. I said, Oh, I'll have to get me a new one. And that's not the end of the conversation. He said, How much did you pay for that shirt? And I was really proud. I paid $9.99 Like I got this really inexpensive shirt. And so it just points that out. Then I crossed my legs like this. And he sees the bottom of my shoe and the bottom of my shoe as it's worn out. And he says your shoes worn out. How much did you pay for those shoes? And I said 1999 I gotta make Kenny's I was so proud of this money saving. And he taught me this. There's something difference between cost and value. He said you pay 999 for that shirt, and you're gonna have to replace it four times in the year. I'm wearing a shirt that will stay good and I'll have for three years. He showed me that the car he's driving the cost four times my car would be a better investment than my car. He did that with clothes. Everything he taught me to see value. Not cost value. That's one of the many things anything he did, he touched, it turned to be great. He is an influence in my life, one of the greatest people in my life. I love him with all my heart. And most people have that impact on me because I'm open to learn from everyone.

BNS: 00:55:14

Steve, Steve, how to listen powerfully. Can you talk about heart centered listening?

Steve Hardison: 00:55:22

Yeah, these are these are, like I say these questions. I don't, I don't want to give snippet answers. Because anybody has got a quick answer for that. That's probably not very powerful. It is quick on an interview. Listen, how do I know I'm listening with my heart? is first of all, I'm actually listening. I can't listen with my heart when my head isn't even listening. And I'm gearing up what I'm going to say while they're talking. So the first thing I'd have to get is I'd have to be able to listen with my heart. And most people don't. They're listening with Do I agree? Do I disagree? Do I like how he looks? Do I trust him? Is this any good? What's his background? We're not listening to anything. Again, I'll go back to No, I won't say the name that way. If it's, they don't like it. So I have a client that I'm working with. And he says My wife wants to meet you. I had been working with him two years. Now I knew he had a wife. I'd never met her. She comes in, we're having a session together. I'm listening to her. And doing what I would do when I'm not on this side of answering the questions. When I'm asking and working with someone. I'm listening to her in such a way that as we're doing it, she begins to weep. And I said, Do you want to tell me what that's about? And she looks up and she said, I've never been listened to like this in my life. That's heart centered listening. It's not something you teach, it's not a technique. It's you're not in your head. You're with the person and you care. Not the truth, not the answer to your question, a facet on the diamond of the answer to the question. It helps if you're appreciating who's sitting across from you, it's easier to listen, it's even easier to listen, when you see the greatness in them. When I look over, I see a divine being there. So I'm interested in listening to them. And I hear things that other people don't hear because they're not listening, I'm not a better listener, I'm actually listening to what they say, comes from a state of being who I am being is a heart centered listener. And what I do is I leave my mind behind and hear them. I call it ticker taping. In the olden days, when you bought stock, the ticker tape would come out, it would tell you what the prices of the stock is. And it would just give you information, it has no emotion. So when I listened to people with a very difficult story, I'm listening to it like what they're telling me, I don't put a bunch of emotion they have in it. And I don't put my judgment in it. So they have this story. They can tell me and I can have a simple way of being with them. And they're like, how did you see what to do? I didn't get lost in it. I observe I don't absorb when I listen there as the listener, not as a fixer. Not as having the answer, not as giving any advice. Sometimes I've been with a client, her name is Jana Van Sant. She wrote the foreword to the book. And I invite everyone read that forward when you read those first two pages about it. And I'm with her for almost five hours. And in that time, I probably said 100 words, is simply said and meant it. Tell me more. How was that for you? I'm not being a psychiatrist. I wanted to know, she wrote me an email when she went back to the East Coast. If somebody found the email, they would think I must be having a relationship with her. The love that she shared with me out of feeling heard. Can you hear that? Yes.

BNS: 00:59:19

As to thank you to Steve. If you do something for others, they often say that you have made my day something like that. If there is a course called How to make someone's day, then I think you will earn any PhD on that. Why do you like to make someone smile? Or why do you want to do that for others? How can we start doing that for others?

Steve Hardison: 00:59:42

I think it's a great way to enjoy and love life. Yes. And I went when I wake up in the morning and it's not like a burden. It's not like a to do list. It's a natural thing for me to want people to feel good about their life and find the best in something and I look at ways to do that. anything from smiling, opening the door. Here in America in Arizona, there are what's called these older ladies, they call them blue hair and gray hair, because they're older and their hair is blue and gray. Well, what I know is women age. They're not what they were when they're 30. And by the time they get older, and what we do in a society, probably not in India, it's beautiful the way they do three generations in a home. So you get old over here, and you're just put out there. And so what. So, as people get as they age, I know that the last thing a woman has any real control over is their hair. They love to go to the hairdresser. So their bodies all wrinkly, they're looking all nobody looks at him. I go into every grocery store. And before I begin my shopping, I find one of those ladies. And I walked up to them. And I say, and I mean it when I say it, your hair looks lovely today, you would think they want $100,000 Lottery. And that is easy to give. That is easy to give. Start with small things, be kind to yourself, be kind to your wife, be kind to your dog. I do it because it makes a better world. I don't do it. So I get something that minute, I do what I do, I feel great because I was willing to do it. And someone who may not want to accept it. That's okay. That's okay. I'm not offended by they didn't want help or love. It's okay. It's to everyone is the people in your audience if they just when this is over, and they wherever they go, in their homes, girlfriend, boyfriend, whatever, wherever they're at. Just go find someone that's in your world and tell them one thing you like about him. Watch what you can do. And just one conversation. And I'm not talking about BS seeing them or blowing sunshine or trying to get in, I mean, genuinely tell them something you like about them. And watch what happens. Picture a roomful of people doing that with for those who choose to read the book about themselves. And those who choose to go get a ticket and be in that event, I promise them this. They will never experience anything like what's in that room, when you have a bunch of people coming from being loving. And you will experience it. And the people you had read the book, they'll experience it. And people will say I wish I had had this person with me. Don't wish that, go get to February 25, mark it up, then add a committed space, get the book and read it. And between now and getting there and reading the book. Think of the person you love most in the world, or you'd like to help most go share your own experience with them about what the book did get them to go with you. Not so there's a book sold or event the only thing we want people to pay money for so we can donate it. And you know what if you saw a price of a ticket there, and you really got what it is give more so we can give more to them. This is not about us making money. Yes. And I got a client named Roxanne back. And I've invited her to come for ways to Sunday and she's got her own thing going on. And she said $500 to say I'll be there in spirit. So she basically bought one of the tickets, and she's not going to be there. Then we have clients who have paid by five tickets, five seats for five people. And they're gonna be there. They're just saying, if you read the book, and you get committed to it, there's a seat for you. That's a state of being picture. A group of people that are all prepared in a room with that going on. It will be extraordinary. Yes. From that place, those speakers will sound like angels as Steve. Yes. Steve,

BNS: 01:04:07

what is the number one trait that made you the ultimate coach?

Steve Hardison: 01:04:13

Well, let me talk about that for a second. I don't know what that is. And the ultimate coach isn't a title I took upon myself. Yes. Just like LeBron James doesn't call himself King James. All the other basketball players say that's King James, or Michael Jordan didn't say hey, I'm Air Jordan. Or Beckham doesn't say how great of a football player is in England. Other people say that. One of my clients that I coach for years, when the domains of GoDaddy and domain names came out. He was at GoDaddy at the actual physical building before it was you know, it's like in here in Arizona. He calls me up and he says, hey, there is a name here a domain and no one in the world should have this other than you. And I said well Reza, he said, The Ultimate coach, he called me about it. And that was the gift to me. So, why I'm called The Ultimate coaches people say that what's the one thing that has made me the ultimate coach? I don't know. I think there's a facet of things. If I had to pick one thing that makes me be who I am, say this, again, I'm not into this event that we're having is not about coaches. It's not about leaders. It's about being and from being you can be a leader, you can be a coach. I am not coaching people to be anything except to be the best damn that they can be. Can you hear that? Yes. And you're the one who knows. And when you access that being, you'll see the power that you have. Yes, Steve. Steve, tell me. Who are you? Here's how I would answer that for anyone, especially for your listeners. Do you want to know who I am? You want to know my name? Or who I am? Which would you like? Most people? When somebody says, Who are you? They answer and tell him some name. I am not my name. I was given a name by my mother. If you want me to tell you who I am, I'd be glad to. Now, before I say it, I want you to know that who I say I am isn't in competition with who you are, who some other person is. Some of the things I say some other person would have to I don't own them. So as I tell you who I am, I'm going to say something about it. Otherwise, people go what? So ask me the question again,

BNS: 01:06:43

Steve, who are you?

Steve Hardison: 01:06:46

I am the universe. Love is I am that. Be still and know that I am God, not your God, not the God, God with the little g, meaning I create, I create what I see how I react to it. Be still and know that I am God. Now in my flavor of what I wrapped up in. In Christianity. I say I'm a disciple of Jesus Christ. But I'm not talking about the airbrush Christ or the religious Christ. I'm talking about the Christ, who with with who would braid a temple, ready to whip in the temple and clear out the temple are the one that would forgive the harlot and that Christ, I'm the loving Christ. Not that Christ, I am a disciple of his. But I'm also the disciple of many other people that I've studied. But I simply say that because that's what I grew up in. Can you hear that? Someone else may be, I am a devotee of Krishna, great. I don't care what they believe I care that they live what they believe. I am consciously aware of other people's points of view. And I under the right to have a different point of view. I am deeply moved by spirit, the power of all creation. So somebody says, Who are you I say, Man, I'm deeply moved by spirit, the power is all created. That's who I am. So that's what I see. I'm moved by the tree that can grow fruit. But I can put something in the ground and have it do this are distinct their car, that the metal of a car can come out of orange, something happening, they shape it. I'm deeply moved by spirit. I'm loving kindness. I am that no one is worthy of my judgment. And everyone's worthy of my love. I am graciously authentic. I'm strong, healthy, and attractive. I am happy, peaceful. My heart is filled with peace. I am divine intuition. I am connected to infinite intelligence. I experienced extraordinary discernment and decision making power. Now if that's a seed, I experienced extraordinary discernment and decision making power. And I plant that seed. I'm extraordinarily extraordinary discernment decision making power. That's the seed. What is the tree going to be? extraordinary decision making? And discernment. Can you hear that? I am that I do not sweat the small stuff. And it's all small stuff, including death and dying. I am that I have no complaints. You will never hear me complaining. Could I complain? There's plenty to complain about. But when I complain, that's the seat I'm planning of my being. That is what I will read. I distinctly remember forgetting that and that is my past. And I spoke about that earlier. I Don't wallow in it. I just use it to lead guide despair. I am madly in love with my gorgeous, sexy, vivacious, brilliant loving kind wife, Amy Blake Hardison. I'm extraordinarily patient with all living things, especially me Blake Hardison. I live, I love, I learn, I serve. And I bless all of humanity. every waking moment of my life. This is who I am BNS. And my mom named me, Steve, thanks for asking who I am. I am not my name, I have a name. And,

BNS: 01:10:21

Steve, how does it differ from an affirmation? In my opinions,

Steve Hardison: 01:10:30

the declaration of someone creating themselves through their state of being, in order to really do that in a beautiful way, one would have to build the foundation and see the ideas that are underneath these things called affirmations or declarations. Many people that do affirmations will write down some fancy things to say, and they will build it on a faulty foundation, meaning they'll build these ideas on ideas that are I can't make it I'm no good. I'll never be no one will ever like me. And they're putting on it. I'm going to be successful. So the foundational of work is the difference between a declaration and affirmation. With a declaration. I'm not trying to prove anything. I'm not even trying to get anywhere. I'm coming from a place I am coming from love is I am that. I'm not trying to get to it. I'm coming from it. People will say to me, hmm, declaration affirmation, what's the difference? The difference is the depth of the work. declar declaration will come out of the body of someone who says I forgive myself for judging myself as a felon. I forgive myself for judging myself as cruel. Because they're doing it all the time, even if they're out of prison or whatever it is. So, if I'm thinking I'm a felon, go ahead and try to build some cute affirmation on top of that. So it would be removing the idea and whether it's a felon or I'm no good or I'm fat or I'm not smart, it's all the same. The ideas so if I work with that, I forgive myself for judging myself as being poor. For the truth is now this is a declaration I'm going to forgive myself for judging myself as being poor every time I think it I forgive myself for judging me that as like that that's I don't have to be that for the new truth is I'm prospers and the ability to earn and create now if I judged myself that as much as I judged myself poor, I'd have that that's the difference between a declaration and affirmation when other thought people say to me all the time BNS How can you sell people like BNS that you love him? How can you tell people at the end of a conversation these things you call strangers, that you love them? How can you finish your texts, your emails with loving you be blessed? And I say to them, BNS asked him a simple question. BNS, is there anyone in this world that you don't know, that you don't particularly care much for? And are there some people in this world you don't really know? And you dislike a lot? Are there any people in this world that you don't know? And you hate? The answer is yes, yes. And yes. So if you can do that, why can't I love someone? I don't know. Simple, it's not rocket science. It's a choice.

BNS: 01:13:33

Yes, Steve. Steve. Now we have questions from some people you love. So I know everyone. Hello, everyone. So Vicki Robbins has a question for you. How how quality time remaining QTR affects your own state of being and how that could affect everyone coming to the event in India?

Steve Hardison: 01:13:56

Yes, thank you. So for me and my wife, we have a distinction called Qt our quality time remaining. I'm 67. She's 63 We have four kids, 11 grandkids. I have clients I have whatever I'm doing in life. And so we have the quality time remaining. If I walked over here, I'm going to do it hold on a second. This is this is at my desk. I went over to my desk and at my desk I have three calendars. I have today's date. That's right there. I have this number. This is 2400 24,570. That's the number of days I've been alive. This is an other calendar. I'm expecting to live about 88 years now I could die tomorrow or I could be 94 but if I lived at eight years, I have 7873 When I get up in the morning that will say 7872 This is the time I have left from ain't easy if I live that long. And we never know how long but I know it's a lot less than that which I've already lived. And so I'm going to take this and I'm going to reduce any disagreements, arguments and things that waste my quality time remaining. And I live from that. And sometimes I'll go over to my wife, there may be some disruption. I say QTR. Do we want to spend time with that? Really? will it matter? And yes, it and that can be done at 18 hours of quality time remaining. while you're still in high school have quality time remaining my last year of college quality time remaining before I married? Well, I'm proud to be an old dude. Even though I play basketball kids half my age.

BNS: 01:15:52

Still, Chris Dodd is has a question for you. What is the most valuable practice that you have ever incorporated into your life?

Steve Hardison: 01:16:02

First of all, BNS, I want to acknowledge you for putting this program together, getting these different questions, and doing all of this all your preparation is amazing. Thank you,

BNS: 01:16:12

I think.

Steve Hardison: 01:16:16

Say the question again, for me,

BNS: 01:16:18

what is the most valuable practice you have ever incorporated into your life?

Steve Hardison: 01:16:23

Wow, there are so many. Probably one of them is the idea that suffering is optional. That if I actually inquired of my ideas, I might see that in my mind is a lot messier than what's actually happening in reality. And that's from a woman named Byron Katie. And I think that might be one of the thing is, it's like, things are really, really messy in our head even more messy than they are out there in the real world. So if we would just sort of head out a bit, we'd sort out the world. And I could give you one of those. It's the best every 10 minutes at a different time. Is don't have one. That's one. There's a bunch of those. And thanks, Chris, Doris. Thanks to

BNS: 01:17:14

Steve Emily paintin. And Marlon has a question for you. How do you get into the right energy to pursue a goal?

Steve Hardison: 01:17:23

To pursue a goal? Yes. Well, I don't know that there is a right energy. But okay, I think that what I do is I just live from a state of being the Chicago Tribune came out to interview me one day, and they said, we heard that you don't, you're not you don't use goals, and you're not interested in goals. And I said, that's accurate. What I said was, where I'm coming from is more important than where I'm going to. So people are all into the goals. I'm not, it's not I don't have goals. But what I'm interested in is where am I coming from? Who am I being on the way to my goal, because who I'm becoming is more important to me than what I get. So let's say I want to be a millionaire, or a billionaire, or whatever, era, whatever. And I get there, and I have the thing, but who I become is a Kruk or who I become is unkind. See, and it's not mutually exclusive. But what I want to be sure is where I'm coming from, because of where I'm coming from is centered, it won't matter where I'm going, it won't matter what the goal is, it will be beautiful. And if I get to a goal, and it doesn't matter where it come from, it won't be fun, and I won't have enough money, and she won't be cute enough, thin enough, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. So my energy isn't about the goal. My energy is about managing who I'm being and who I'm becoming. Always, it's simple. My goal for the balance of my life, is to see how many people I can love learn from and serve in this lifetime. And what I managed to get to that is Who am I being loving kindness? That's what I do. It's it's a moment by moment thing that creates, I'm not against goals. I'm really for Who am I be coming going to the goal? And if my goal takes me way up becoming it's not a very good goal. Steve? Yes. Do you get the booby prize? In my opinion?

BNS: 01:19:27

Steve, would you like to issue a seven day challenge to the subscribers?

Steve Hardison: 01:19:32

I would like to issue a one day challenge. Okay. That's my challenge. Now, by the way, I don't know any of these questions. You've asked me. Hope your audience knows that. I haven't seen any of these. Yeah, I will

BNS: 01:19:46

take a second. Steve to the US to say something to the audience. Yeah. Actually, like us guys. I did not even say even one question prior to this interview to Steve Everything that you're seeing here is spontaneous. And that's the mark of esteem. So that's what I wanted to get out of this interview. And I saw this multiple times in this interview. So please do go ahead.

Steve Hardison: 01:20:11

So for me, I don't have a seven day challenge. I have a challenge of this moment, this present moment. And here's the challenge I have. And I promise you, if those who accept this, it will be life altering. And the challenge is this, go over to www, the ultimate experience india.ai N, and get a seat to this event, as soon as you can. And know that the money will go to a great cause. Then after you've committed to get a seat, not a seven day challenge, or right now challenge when you hear this, like at this time, jam up the computer for the seats, go get a seat, immediately after committing to get the seat, then go and get a hard copy of this book, get a Kindle copy, or get it on Audible and read it and listen to it about yourself. And as you have an experience that you will have, see who else you can bring with you. So that they have the experience. That's my one day challenge that if you do it will alter your life. And I promise that all you'd have to do is read the book about you and be in that event. And I promise you, there'll be some of you who hear this and actually do it. And you'll think oh, I would love to take my brother and my uncle, but I didn't want to bother them. And when you're in the event, you're gonna kick yourself in the hiney. Because you're gonna go that would have been great. Or your boss, or your cousin or your ex wife. That's my one day challenge. I don't have a seven day challenge. And I wouldn't make one up. But I do challenge you every listener, listening to me to immediately go and get yourself a seat then because you committed to the seat, get the book and read it like BNS has read it. He's had an experience so extraordinary. He's enrolled for five other people to read the book and be the course. That's what I would ask. And I thank all of you for listening to me. And I it's an honor to be with you. And I hope there's been something that has led you to you, even if I'm doing the talking.

BNS: 01:22:41

Thank you so much stay. I don't want to say anything else. Thank you.

Steve Hardison: 01:22:47

Thank you. Thank you very much. See you in Mumbai. I call it the miracle in Mumbai. Thank you Ron John Kumar. Thank you Indian team. Thank you for the people over in London and the people in Arizona that are helping thank you for the people that are volunteering BNS Thank you, thank you. Thank you. Thank you so much.

BNS: 01:23:10

Thank you so much to

Steve Hardison: 01:23:11

BNS is the best.